To the new mums (and my mum-to-be friends)

everything will be okay

I have a number of friends who are going to experience motherhood for the first time soon and I can't help but feel excited yet a little nervous for them. While the memories of the first year of being a new mum are still fresh in my head, I thought I'll write this down - for the new mamas and the mamas-to-be: 

  • Get ready to fall in love - this was a quote from a friend and it's beautifully put. You might surprise yourself by how much love you have in you to give. 
  • The first days, weeks, and months is not a pretty will be long and mentally, physically, emotionally exhausting, but, it gets easier. 3 months seems to be the magic number!
  • It is ok to reject visitors and tell them to give you and your family time and space if and when you need it. 
  • Celebrate the small wins. The first walk outside of the house. The first trip to your local cafe/coffee shop. The first time they sleep for more than 3 hours at a go.  They all add up. One day you might look back and surprise yourself by how much you've grown as a person and as a mother.
  • Everyone will have an opinion to share (including this!) but remember - ultimately you have the right to decide what is best for you and for your baby. 
  • Happy mama = happy baby. Care for your needs first where possible and you will be in a better position to care for your little one.
  • Breastfeeding can be difficult (despite how I thought it's easy given it's the most natural thing to do) so please do not hesitate to get support if you need to.
  • Enjoy the little things...they go by so quickly. The first time they discovered their fists. The first time they smiled. Actually these milestones probably only matter to you/parents but that's all it matters and what It should be about.
  • "Done is better than perfect". Embrace imperfections here and there... it makes life just that bit easier. 
  • They will test your patience to the limits. But a smile from them generally makes up for everything :)
  • And when all else fails, remember that, this too, shall pass.

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